It’s A Family Affair

It’s been almost two years since we started taking care of Gladys. We have had our share of good days and bad days. We’ve had many moments of laughter and times when we just wanted to scream. The one thing that has been consistent in our caregiving is teamwork. It’s something that I cherish and it’s something that I’m well aware that some families don’t have when it comes to taking care of elderly family members.

Our normal morning routine is: I wake Gladys up, get her showered, dressed and hair combed. Fred prepares her breakfast, takes it to her room, gives Gladys her morning medicine and then her breakfast. The routine isn’t perfect because sometimes we disagree on what he prepares or the amount of food he gives Gladys. Sometimes I want him to give her yogurt with her breakfast but since he doesn’t like yogurt, he won’t give it to Gladys either. So we have basically come to an agreement – if he feeds her, I can’t tell him what to do. So yogurt usually ends up being one of her snacks or she’ll get yogurt when I fix her breakfast, which is usually once or twice a week.

Gladys has a good appetite and looks forward to every meal. On Saturdays she often gets one of her favorite meals – cinnamon, raisin bagels, cream cheese, coffee and yogurt. When she sees the bagel she starts singing the Campbell Soup song, “mmm, mmm, good.” Breakfast today was oatmeal, prunes and a glass of milk. I thought she had too many prunes but I didn’t say anything. I thought about slipping a few of them out of the bowl but I didn’t.