Are You Prepared to Care for Aging Family Members?

If you are 45 or older, chances are that sometime in the future, you may be faced with taking care of an aging family member.  Are you prepared to care for aging family members?  Even more-so, are you prepared to care for an aging person with severe physical limitations and dementia or Alzheimer’s?

During the ’60′s and 70′s I was a big fan of Tim Conway’s “Old Man” character on the Carol Burnett Show.  I laughed at the old man as he shuffled his feet and moved in tiny little steps.  It seemed to take him forever to move a few feet.  I had no idea that as I became a caregiver that those shuffling feet and tiny steps would become a part of my life.  Compared to Gladys, Tim Conway’s character was power walking.

Some of the changes you may need to prepare for as a caregiver are listed below.

• Changes to Your Home:  If at all possible, a bedroom and bathroom on the first level of your home is ideal.  Many aging people have problems climbing stairs.  For physical limitations, you will also need to modify your bathroom with handrails, elevated toilet seats and a walk in shower equipped with a shower seat, a hand held shower kit and slide bar.  Your doors should also be wide enough to accommodate wheel chairs and walkers.
• Time Management:  Once you become a caregiver, time management is crucial.  In addition to additional responsibilities at home, time needs to be managed for doctors appointments, physical therapy, picking up prescriptions, transport to day care . . .
• Family Support:  If you don’t have family and friends who will relieve you, you won’t have a social life, you won’t get any rest and you will be a candidate for caregiver burnout.
• Patience:  Once you master the patience quotient, start looking for your caregiver’s nomination to sainthood.  Older people, especially with physical limitations, move very slowly.  It can literally be like watching something in slow motion.  I didn’t really understand until I saw the Xtreme Aging Workshop Video.  Telling them to hurry up doesn’t make them move faster, it just frustrates them because they are moving as fast as they can.  Another factor in doing things slowly is dementia.  Dementia can cause your aging family member to forget how to perform normal routine things that we take for granted.
• Medicare and Medicaid:  Understanding these fraternal twins is akin to understanding the Nightmare on Elm Street.  Just like I don’t understand why anyone still lives on Elm Street, I don’t understand how Medicare works.  There a so many options that are not easy to understand.  When you get through that maze, give me a call.
• Legal Issues:  An assortment of legal documents need to be addressed:  living will, power of attorney, paying bills, checking account . . .
• Resources:  There are many resources available for aging seniors and family caregivers.  This site lists some that you can use to get started, there are many others out there.
• Disability Parking Permit:  If your aging family member has difficulty walking or uses a wheel chair, you can apply for a disabled persons parking permit through your county office.  In Georgia, I got mine at the same place where driver’s licenses are issued.  Some states, including Georgia, require a statement or prescription from your doctor.
• Emergency Supplies:  Depending on the needs of your aging family member you may need to keep a tote bag with emergency supplies.  Some of the things I keep in my car, in the wheel chair backpack and the walker tote are:  extra Depends, baby wipes, cotton balls (for nose bleeds) hand sanitizer, paper towels and tissues.  Your needs may be different, these just happen to be the things I carry.

I hope this has been helpful and has given you something to think about.  As you think of additional things, let us know in the comment section.

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Preparing our Home for Care Giving

Three months before Gladys had her stroke, Fred and I had just downsized from a 3500 square foot home to a 2200 square foot townhouse.  Even though we downsized we still had a lot of “things” and our townhouse was not elder friendly.

We bought a three story townhouse with fairly high ceilings.  Needless to say we have lots of steps.  On the first level, Fred and I had an office.  Our bedrooms are on the third level.  Fortunately, we anticipated that we might move Gladys to Georgia so last summer we had a handicapped bathroom constructed on the first level.

Our office was not outfitted to be pretty; it was functional with wood blinds but no curtains or sheers.  The task was to make the space warm and homey for Gladys. 

The plan:

1. dismantle Fred’s exercise room on the third floor and move our office into that room
2. move the bedroom furniture (but not the mattress) from the guest room down to the first level
3. move the book cases into the guest room
4. buy a frame for the mattresses in the guest room and purchase a small chest of drawers for the guest room
5. buy new mattresses for Gladys
6. purchase a portable wardrobe for Gladys
7. purchase extra linens and towels for Gladys’ suite
8. rearrange the garage to accommodate clearance for a wheel chair and walker
9. sell, give away or throw away things we don’t use or need

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