A Caregivers Goals for 2010: Unlocking The Old Me

Taking My Life Back

Before I became a caregiver there were things I used to enjoy that have all but disappeared from my life.  I realized this a few months ago when I went on vacation for the first time since I became Gladys’ caregiver.  My life pretty much revolves around Gladys’ needs and I’ve neglected myself  in many ways.  That’s about to change.

The holidays gave me a chance to jump start some things that I want to bring back into my life.  It’s amazing how little things can provide so much satisfaction.  The following changes are being re-incorporated into my life.

Date Night

I haven’t been married for 38 years by ignoring my husband.  Fridays used to be our date night.  It’s something we started about 20 years ago and kept up until 2008.  While we probably can’t make a weekly date, we can probably work in a date once a month.  I just have to convince my daughter, Anita, to watch Gladys for us while we go out.

Love A Good Book

I love to read.  Give me a good thriller or murder mystery and I’m a happy camper:  Vince Flynn, Michael Connelly, Walter Mosley, JD Robb or Tom Clancy.  Between Thanksgiving and New Years Eve, I read four novels – three JD Robb and one Michael Connelly.  JD Robb is a recent author that I started reading and I’m trying to catch up on the Eve Dallas series.  Fortunately I found a good second hand book store that also takes trade-ins.  I didn’t get much else done, but I was content and eager to get back to my books.

My reading goal is at least one novel per month.

Food Network Anyone?

Until last month, it had been a while since I tried a new recipe.  Over the past month I’ve tried at least six new recipes, including frying a turkey.  I shared my new recipe adventures with my Facebook friends.  It’s funny how so many friends responded to the cholesterol, calorie laden recipes but not a peep when I share the healthy ones.

This goal is to try a new recipe at least twice a month.

Regular Vacations

This year I went on vacation alone and that was a stretch.  Not because I can’t handle being alone (I enjoy alone time), but because my husband is semi retired and has not worked in about two years.  In addition to that, my hours were cut just before Gladys came to stay with us.  However, we’re going to work it out along with care for Gladys while we are gone.

Exercise of Any Kind

Just before Gladys came to live with us I started walking for exercise.  It wasn’t much but it was something.  Over the past year and a half I have become a bonafide couch potato and gained about 10 pounds.  I’ve got to get back to walking.  Also need to incorporate a stretching routine.

I believe all of these are doable.  It’s not really a lot, it just takes some planning and time management.

What About You?

If you are a caregiver who has become stuck in a rut, I hope you will also take a look at some things that you can do to take your life back.

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I Went On A Date

Last Saturday, Fred and I went on a date.  We didn’t stop by Wendy’s, the Chinese restaurant or Roy’s Cheese Steak.  We actually made a reservation, got dressed up and went out to dinner.  We had a very nice evening out at McCormick and Schmicks.  Nice ambience, good service, good food.  It was the first date we’ve gone on since we started taking care of Gladys  and we enjoyed every moment of it.

Family caregivers who live with the person they take care of can appreciate how excited we were.  Before we started taking care of Gladys, we went out quite frequently.  Sometimes we’d just pack up and take a little weekend trip on the spur of the moment.  Now we have to get someone to stay with Gladys before we can plan anything away from the house.

We won’t wait so long for the next date.

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